“But some of the women had more than one partner; some had what they called ‘f… buddies’, they didn’t want the hassle of a relationship but were still very sexual. ‘ They’d had long-term relationships where the sex was never about them, or they’d got caught up in the baby thing and running a house.”
When one of my newly lovestruck older friends, a widow, tells me over lunch, “You don’t know what good sex is until you’re 70”, I can’t help thinking she’s either had a lot of bad sex until now or a treat lies in store at 70.
“Post-menopause is not the doom and gloom everybody necessarily claims,” Malta says. “It is for some women but for a lot it isn’t. ‘ A lot of them discover for the first time that they can actually pleasure themselves. Some women said to me, ‘I’d never had an orgasm in my life until I got divorced and found a new partner.’ ”
And of course, the sexual possibilities can be more limited for women
Other couples are happy to close the book on that chapter. “I’ve seen enough dicks in my life,” a 70-year-old Melbourne woman who doesn’t wish to be named tells me frankly. “I couldn’t face all that at this stage. Happily, the man I met said, ‘Look, that part of my life is over for me’ – he has some health issues – and I thought, ‘Thank heavens.’ But we’re very physically affectionate with each other. Lots of snuggling. https://worldbrides.org/sv/heta-nya-zeeland-brudar/ Very warm and very loving.”
Put it down to biology, social conditioning or just another inequity of gender, but it’s easier for older men to seek out much younger partners – and be congratulated for it. Continue reading A lot said, ‘I rediscovered my sexual self