Your spouse needs to work alone on his/her own changes, so you need to move deliberately away from your relationship, whether that means separation or divorce
- Is there an obvious shift toward honesty, or are there still cover-ups and lies?
- Does their confession include information you did not know, or only admitting to what you found out?
- Does your spouse show genuine remorse for the behavior, or just sorry for getting caught?
- Does your spouse accept full responsibility, or make excuses?
- When confronted with your pain, does your spouse respond with empathy, or defensiveness?
- Is your spouse willing to do the work of repairing trust, or are you expected to just get esposa turco over it?
- Does your spouse have insight into their affair behavior, or do they just call it a big mistake?
I want to be clear about one thing: if you have been betrayed by your spouse, you have every right to exit your marriage. When trust has been so profoundly broken. when vows have been so deeply violated. nobody should tell you that you are obligated to give your spouse another chance, even if it is your spouse’s first and only affair.
And let’s be honest; there are advantages to leaving right away. You save yourself from a process of recovery that will be harder than you want, take longer than you expect, and has a rather high rate of failure. It is possible that even after months of agonizing attempts, swinging back and forth between hope and despair, your marriage will end. So why drag things out? Why not just go ahead and get it over with?
Because there may be hope for healing and the discovery of a marriage that is even more satisfying than the one you experience before. Because you’ve already invested so much of yourself, and fixing what is broken may ultimately be better than letting it go. Continue reading You have three options: (1) leave now; (2) give it some time; (3) stay no matter what