Nowadays, the situation when a woman becomes the main earner in the family is no longer so rare. Studies show that this does not pass without a trace for relations.
From the point of view of the woman herself, she studied stubbornly and worked for many years in order to get a highly paid job, and now her husband can only get used to the new reality. Some problems that women who make up more husbands need to know about.
1. Sexy life suffers from the rearrangement of sexual roles. Women who have become a family or simply earn more than a husband do not fit into traditional gender stereotypes. Roles in the family are becoming more and more blurry. As a result, the intimate life of the couple often suffers.
Sexual fantasies are often based on traditional ideas about sexual roles, although this does not mean that partners really want to adhere to these roles in everyday life. But if in ordinary life they are very far from traditional roles, their attraction to each other can weaken. This does not mean that they will really have to change their established roles, but it is important to take this effect to take into account. Think about what you can do to return mutual attraction – for example, change your roles at the level of game and fantasy, without changing them in reality.
2. You are neglecting. It seems to some men that such a state of affairs belittles them, deprives of masculinity. There may be a feeling that they lose a certain competition to the spouse.
However, this reaction does not occur in all. Perhaps they do not want to take on more household duties, since this does not bring them joy at all, but rather, on the contrary. All this is hard for them. And, of course, if such disagreements arise, the wife cannot simply say: “Oh God, stop you already suffer because you don’t feel like a man!”
It is difficult for many women to understand their attitude to family duties: they are both desirable and painful
As with any other problem, understanding and sympathy is important. Think about how you can
help each other feel more comfortable in a new role. He can take on some responsibilities that will help him feel more courageous: repair, repair of the car, etc.D.
3. You yourself do not know how to relate to this situation. Women who make up more are also difficult. Often they want to work at responsible and highly paid work, but at the same time they are still tormented by doubts. For example, due to the fact that they lack time to communicate with children and care for them. Due to the fact that a husband cannot be financially rely on, a sense of security may not be enough. It may not be easy to figure it out.
And what about the so -called “invisible work” of women (duties of mother and housewife)? Yes, many women are burdened by this burden, but many at some level still want to fulfill these duties. They want to lead the child to the pediatrician themselves, observe how he is weighed and measured, and if it is not possible to find time for this, they begin to suffer. It is difficult for many women to understand themselves and in their dual attitude towards family duties, which are both desirable for them and painful. It will be best to take on the main thing (hiking with a child to a doctor, for various events and extracurricular activities), and entrust the rest to someone else.